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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They get no attention or interest from guys at their respective schools and there are dozens of friends like them at each of their colleges. It's weird out there. [/quote]

Since roughly Middle School and continuing all the way through HS, the boys at DS's school have been cautioned against any appearance of sexual harassment towards girls.

This even has included explicit caution even about just asking a girl out (unless she wanted to be asked out and how does one know without asking?).

DS and his male friends find it all very confusing and have trouble discerning if there is any "safe harbor" where asking a girl out will not result in a harassment complaint.

Parents of boys at other schools tell us their sons are being given roughly the same messaging. So our case is no special or uncommon today. Of course, as with anything,  there will be both variation from school to school and some exceptions.

By contrast, the same school only warns girls to be scared of guys. There apparently is no such thing as "sexual harassment" from a gal toward a guy.

In times gone by, there was much less of this guidance to boys (in my day, the rule was "no touching" but approaching a girl verbally was fine).

Bottom line today is that girls/women ought not wait to be asked out. Smart ones will seize the initiative and initiate with boys/men they are interested in.  (Also, best to not be too subtle; many boys/men do not detect subtle.)[/quote]

Is this really YOUR SONS' perspective and not yours?

I ask because I also have a sophomore son who attended a private school and he and his friends all dated in high school.  They had no deep-seated fears of being seen as sexually harassing girls. They all dated very attractive girls from across the DMV.
My daughter (freshman) and her friends did not date because frankly they somewhat overlooked for not being hot enough.  The boys looked elsewhere and they could because they were in such demand. This whole dynamic has continued in college. The hottest girls have no issue dating.The boys (both attractive and not attractive) have their pick. The girls who are a step below the upper crust are left out.There are just way too many attractive girls and girls period.

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I find this rather startling. I’m used to the idea that there are “too many” girls at co-ed schools that are 55% female. But now you’re saying that there are “too many” high-school aged girls in the DMV? How? What happened to their brothers?[/quote]

I think they are talking about private school.

Families with girls are more likely to send their kids to private school.[/quote]

What?  This post and your other post at 15:04 are just chock full of claims you have totally made up. Stop spewing nonsense unless you have citations to back it up.
DP[/quote]

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