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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every big city has people like this, because they gravitate toward big cities. [/quote]

Specifically, people like this gravitate toward big cities after college graduation, because this is where they will have a better likelihood of meeting a spouse and also hone their type-A personality at work (Regardless of where they continue to work long-term). What the big city they go to is depends a little on interests, college, and where they are from originally, but every major US city (New York, Chicago, DC, SF, LA, Dallas, etc.) will all draw these types.

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I agree with this, and know that a major reason this personality type bothers me is because I used to be like this. And I moved to the area because I was like this. And then I went through some things that made me stop being like this, but in the meantime got married, built a career, and had kids. So now I find myself aggravated by this personality and know I could probably get away from the worst of it by changing fields or moving, but doing so is challenging at midlife because of fairly deep ties to this area and a lot invested in my career and especially my present position (which I like a lot).

I don't blame people for being like this. Like I'm not mad at them for being ambitious or aggressive. Maybe sometimes in the moment I feel frustrated with them, but mostly I realize that my values and priorities have shifted and that's all it is. I just don't think this way anymore.

The hardest part for me is raising my kids in a community where these attitudes are common, and trying to fight it in my own parenting. My oldest is almost in MS and I think that's going to be the critical point for my spouse and I. He is not like this at all and never has been (that's part of why I changed) and it's not what we want our kids to believe. Yet here we are. I understand this is a challenge of our own making, but it is a challenge nonetheless.[/quote]

Sorry what is the challenge you and your husband are facing raising your kid(s)? Other kids’ moms or yall want to be laid back and see where that gets you? Try GDS, has something for everyone, pick your own path is fine. [/quote]

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