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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone else? Not sure if this is a vent or what.

I’m expected or at least need to earn a living and contribute to maintain our lifestyle

But all the planning is on me. He hasn’t volunteered to do anything for Christmas. He’s never going to volunteer. I can assign him something and he will do it but he automatically assumes I will handle it all. I’m supposed to be fortunate he will contribute if asked. We both have jobs that are just as demanding.

I’m frustrated and there is not a solution. Regret getting married and signing up for this. I’ve talked to him and nothing will change. I vacillate between thinking he’s incompetent and he is taking advantage of me.

When can I be free of this? Never?

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Just drop the rope and only do the things important to you.  I stopped getting his family gifts for example, but I still get them for my parents, siblings, nieces and nephews.  I do kids via delivery to the house.  I hate cooking, so I don’t.  We had nothing one year and had to go out because I said I wasn’t doing it anymore and he didn’t believe me. Now he organizes dinner.  His family gets nothing from us (because he doesn’t plan it).  Also, if he invites visitors, he’s responsible- one year I just went to the office everyday, so I wasn’t expected to cook or entertain.  After that he got the message.  Now he steps up.[/quote]

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