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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs sit in total silence. They speak to no one including their son and grandkids, unkess its answerin a question. Any and all socializing is torture for these people. I am indeed afraid that my kids have inherited this defect and as my husband ages he seems to be getting more like them.
My dad sits in blissful solitude because he "forgot" his hearing aids again.
My mom is telling my ILs various sob stories trying desperately to get a reaction or sympathy out of them. She will get nothing and end up tipsy on my deck, in tears, asking why I married into such a weird family.[/quote]

They just want to be left alone! Why is your mother torturing them?! She can chit chat with someone else.

Introverted people like being at the fringes of the event, without engaging too much socially.

I would much rather have introverted people as guests than have people who cannot let a silence go unchallenged.[/quote]

Sorry, that's just weird with FAMILY. I somewhat understand your point in other situations, but this is not normal.[/quote]

I know it's not normal for you, but it's not something they can control. They're clearly on the autism spectrum. [/quote]

OK and way to completely miss the point. Not sure how you can tell they are CLEARLY on the spectrum based on that short anecdote. No one is forcing the in laws to be there if they don't want to be. If you agree to the visit, you agree to some actual interaction. Otherwise just stay home (which is fine btw!)[/quote]

I don't know what it is but something is wrong. I've written here before about how they sat in silence when meeting their first grandchild. They literally had nothing to say.
One of their fathers died a while back. Husband was a pallbearer so I was alone at the grave with a toddler and a baby. With one arm I held the baby, with the other I held up an umbrella in the pouring rain. Toddler was whimpering and ILs just looked daggers at me because the toddler wasnt silent. Not a stranger, but their own grandchild. A random second cousin ended up helping me with the umbrella and was very sweet.[/quote]

Why on earth would you take two very young children to a funeral?  [/quote]

+1. Your MIL’s father died and you wanted her to hold your stupid umbrella? Wow, just wow. You should have stayed out of the way or not gone.[/quote]

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