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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I call this BS.  If he cooks, clean, and does his laundry, he is basically a simp.  [/quote]

I’m 42 and I’ve been married 15 years and together for 20.

I guess I’ve reached the age of fatherly wisdom so here goes…

Son, if you think a man who cooks, cleans, and does his own laundry is a “simp” you have no business being a part of society.  Where did your parents fail you? If you can’t be self sufficient you have nothing and you are nothing.  I was raised by men who could basically do any task they needed to from sewing on a button to field dressing a deer.  Clean up your act.  You’re a f’ing joke. [/quote]

Basically you're a "simp".

My father is Chinese, and my mother is Vietnamese, and they have been married for over 50 years.  My father never had to cook, clean, or do his own laundry because my mother did everything around the house.  My mother taught me how to cook, clean, and do my own laundry so that I know how to do it, but that does not mean I have to do it.  I know how to change car tires, oil change, and fix cars, but that does not mean I have to do them.  My mother taught me that I should learn the necessary skills (i.e. sports, music, working out), and make a lot of money if I wanted to attract women.  My mother also told me that when I get married, my wife should do the cooking, cleaning, and laundry because I am making a lot more $$$ than she does.  If she doesn't like it, do not let the door hit her on the way out.  A woman will put up with a lot of things with a guy if that guy is way out of her league.  That was advices from my mother to me when I was 22 years old.  I am now married with a wife and two kids, and I neither cook, clean, nor do laundry because my wife does that.

Any guys that cook, clean, and do laundry are simply simp.[/quote]
Your mother was raised in a misogynistic culture, old world, and probably grew up post the war, which means she was poor or a refugee.  She didn't have that many choices.

My mother also grew up in a poor Asian country, decimated by war, and she too had some misogynistic notions. They can't help it. That's the way they grew up.

I fought that culture tooth and nail.  And I'm happy that my DD has more choices, and my DS will have his pick of women because not only is he good looking and very fit, but he earns good money, knows how to cook and keeps his place clean.  He's a catch.  My DH was like this, and he had no shortage of women.
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