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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a grandmother.  Unless it was an emergency health situation, I would keep my plans for the birthday party and then see the newborn after.  I never want to appear like I am showing favoritism and I keep my plans.[/quote]

My mother is like this.  Little to no emotion in her decision making. Certainly no nuance.  I could call her and say I'd won the Nobel Peace Prize and was giving a speech , the next day, to the entire universe and begged her to come as my guest of honor to witness me being given this award by God himself, and she'd say that she'd love to only she already promised to go out to lunch with my brother and she wasn't one to cancel plans on her children. [/quote]

You sound dramatic and exhausting. She probably gets more peace with your brother.[/quote]

Perhaps she does.  Which is fine. Everyone has favorites, even mothers. Just pointing out that refusing to use common sense or emotion, and insisting on "keeping your plans" when clearly an unexpected, more important situation has arisen with one of your other children, is unusually rigid and usually not very kind. [/quote]

Well- [b]if you think that you and your situation are more important[/b], then of course you'll be put out if plans aren't changed for you.  Classic narcisism.

I mean, clearly the daughter with the newborn knew that grandma would already have plans with the other grandkid on their birthday, and it doesn't sound like there's an immediate need for grandma's presence.  She could literally go visit the next day rather than being forced to choose.[/quote]

Be honest.  Is attending a standing lunch date with one child more important than attending your other child winning the Nobel Peace Prize?  Because that's what you're arguing here, if you are following the thread you are responding to.  [/quote]

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