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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can be guilty of this.  I do think ADHD is something I struggle with but can mostly manage.  I wish I could say why my brain does it.  It's like.  I know the laundry needs to be switched over but I just end up doing something else and keep saying "I'll do it later".  The difference is that I know it drives DH crazy so I make a real effort to follow through on everything.   I make a lot of lists.  For whatever reason physically crossing things off helps me.   I also make myself stop and say "no, bring the glass to the kitchen when you stand up.   Don't say you'll do it later"[/quote]

Tell me more about the ADHD part. Is this an ADHD thing? Is it procrastination or is it resistance to being told what to do? I'm genuinely curious because DH has ADHD and is medicated for it. [b]It helps him be successful at work but does nothing for him at home.[/b][/quote]

This is how you know it’s not ADHD. Do you really think his medication is formulated to only be effective when he is in the office? [/quote]

That is kind of the issue with ADHD, the brain can engage to do interesting or new or rewarding tasks but can’t engage to do mundane, routine, uninteresting tasks. Difficulty getting basic housework done is a hallmark sign of ADHD. Starting and finishing tasks are both hard. I am no saying he has it, just clarifying that it is completely normal to struggle differently at home and at work.[/quote]

Completely normal with adhd to struggle differently at home vs at work, and misconceptions like PP’s are unfortunately common.

Not to mention that if the husband is on stimulants and takes it in the morning, then yes it would work during the workday but wear off by the time he is back at the house. Adding a booster or even a long lasting non stimulant might help.[/quote]

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