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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Regarding floors, I will note here that when our floors go unswept or vacuumed for a few days, [b]our kids will complain.[/b] They run around the house barefoot and do not enjoy stepping on crumbs, dirt, and tracked cat litter. Nor do I.

The PP (with a cat!) who claims they sweep twice a month and it's fine must have the tidiest family in the world. We don't wear shoes in the house and restrict eating to the kitchen and dining room and we still wind up with stuff on the floors after a few days. I think once a week is bare minimum and that's not to maintain perfect cleanliness or anything, just to ensure we don't attract bugs or ruin the floors.[/quote]

The day one of my kids complains about the floors being swept is that day is the day they get a new chore. I wonder if you'd feel less harried if you were in charge of your kids and not the other way around?[/quote]

I'm happy to have my 5 yr old sweep the floor but also that is not a good way to get floors clean. And they are too small for the vacuum.[/quote]

You're missing the larger point which that your kids need to learn not to complain to you. If I'd told my mom to sweep, she would even have been able to spank me she'd be laughing so hard.[/quote]

Did you miss the part where I pointed out I don't like the dirty floors either? This is so circular. If someone says "my husband never cleans the floors, even when they are disgusting," your response is that their standards for clean floors are too high and no one cares that much. If someone else says "actually my kids really hate it when the floors are covered in dirt and it attracts ants and other issues," then the argument is that the kids should clean the floors. If someone points out that not all kids are old enough to clean floors, well then we're back to having expectations of cleanliness that are too high.

Look if you want to live in a freaking pig pen with cat litter and cracker crumbs and bits of dried mud and pet hair on the floor all the time, be my guest. Most people do not, and that's not some OCD standard, it's a normal attitude about cleanliness and hygiene. Given that keeping floors reasonably clean (not spotless, just not covered in detritus at all times) is generally going to require sweeping/vacuuming once or twice a week, then having a husband who refuses to ever sweep or vacuum actually absolutely creates a ton of labor for the wife in that marriage, labor he and the children benefit from. It is unequal.

I look forward to Roomba PP coming back to explain that the problem is not a DH who refuses to pull his weight, but actually a wife who is too cheap to buy a robot to do her husband's basic cleaning for him, like a smart woman would.

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The main problem is once again your refusal to accept that your opinion is not a universal truth.  If your husband doesn’t feel compelled to sweep or vacuum and is not actually demanding that YOU sweep or vacuum, then it means that the state of the floors has not actually crossed HIS “disgusting” threshold, regardless of how YOU feel about it.  If HE was disgusted by the floors he would deal with the floors (or actively request or order you to deal with them which is an entirely separate problem not discussed thus far in this thread).

A secondary problem is that you contradict yourself.  First the roomba is no good as a compromise solution because it doesn’t do a good enough job, but now you’re claiming you don’t actually require spotless floors, just floors reasonably free of detritus.  I have two roombas and they keep the floors in a general state of “eh, they’re fine” in between more active vacuuming which happens 1) whenever I feel like vacuuming, or 2) when I think “eww these floors are gross!  I need to vacuum them immediately!”

And I agree that someone like you and someone like me would not get along as roommates, but once again, that doesn’t mean you’re right/good/hardworking and I am wrong/bad/lazy, it simply means we have, once again, different standards.[/quote]

dude, never get married, lol. what a loser. sweep your d*mn floor![/quote]

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