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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don't get why people find it so triggering to hear someone who feels busy say "I've been really busy.[/b]" And the idea that you are not allowed to say this unless you have a certain number of kids or are a working mom -- the arrogance and ignorance of that attitude.

I have one kid but she has special needs that most people don't know about. I have a sibling with a substance abuse problem and a parent with physical and mental health problems. My MIL's health has started to fail as well. My DH hates his job but cannot quit for financial reasons and navigating that is exhausting. I work a flexible job so that I can be there for my DD who needs a lot of support, and what that means is that I sometimes spend much of the day taking care of her needs and then I work until 1 or 2 am in order to get my work done. That's what "flexibility" buys me -- the freedom to work when I should be sleeping because I have to parent when I should be working. We can't get by without my income.

So if I say "I'm busy" and someone thinks "omg this idiot thinks she's busy and she only has ONE child," they can kindly go **** themselves.[/quote]

I don't find it "triggering" (whatever that means to you), I just don't really see the need to discuss it.  It seems like some moms on this thread like bonding over that type of talk; I personally do not.  I think it is one of those things that can just remain unsaid as we are all busy with different things.  I work full time and have three kids in various activities; however, I work from home so don't have to worry about commute time.  I personally would not feel the need to have a conversation with a mom with one kid who commutes full time where we trade that she is busy because he is on the metro 45 minutes to work each day and I share that I am busy because my kids have different activities every day.

I also don't personally think that SAHMs are inherently less busy than me- they may not work full time but maybe they have different things going on.  I just don't really need to hear about it (or, on the flip side, discuss it myself) unless it is something super unique such as helping a parent recover from surgery.  [/quote]

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