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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I go to India almost every year for the last 30 years.  My kids like their comforts and so we make sure that we are well prepared.  We usually stay at home or at hotels. We hire touring luxury taxies or vans. We travel by road, by railways and by plane.

The family homes (ILs, parents, friends, siblings, relatives) where we stay usually have water heaters  and you can either bathe using a bucket or use the shower.  However, no one wastes a lot of water so mostly one or two large buckets of water is all we use per person to bathe with.

We have access to family car (relatives drive us around) or we usually hire uber or a whole day taxi that costs us around $30 per day.

We have our own bank account in India, our own Indian ATM and credit card and we have our own Indian cell phone with google pay.

No one goes hungry there because the level and variety of food there is mind blowing. We shop till we drop and the shopkeepers even ship our bulky items to US.

OP, sorry but I know how terrible the infrastructure and modernization is in Bangladesh.  If you are not from a well-off family or if your DH does not want to spend money, you are so screwed.  So, you are not even going traveling and touring in Bangladesh? [/quote]

Op here. To be fair to dh, I don't think there is as much to your here. Flying around Bangladesh isn't a popular thing. Bangladesh is comparable to the size of Iowa but half the population as the US. There are a lot of traffic jams. We spend $150 going back and forth to Dhaka and it can easily take 4 hours. The distance doesn't seem that bad but once you get to the suburbs of Bangladesh the traffic gets really bad. This trip we were able to take a toll road but last time it wasn't built yet and we had to take this ancient ferry. I get the feeling a lot of people don't truly understand the differences between India and Bangladesh including myself. Some of my Indian friends in the US have told me the showers are the same experience in India as in the US. A lot of them own a car. That's not the norm here. It's for truly rich people. I am going to take a break from this post and check it in a few weeks. It's overwhelming learning all about the cultural differences.  Most of my marriage has been fine. I haven't had any issues at all with DHs family. If they wanted to live with us in the US I would be okay with it. My sister is laws are awesome. I want to focus on the positive things. Thanks for all of your help to the nice people. In my everyday life, no one knows anything about Bangladesh. I get a shocked face if I mention it without DH around and then the conversation usually moves on. Dh and I fell in love in college. I was in undergrad and he was doing his second master's. Yesterday I found the picture he sent to his family as a way to introduce me. I think video chat wasn't as popular in those days. He sent them my picture and they approved. I grew up dressing really conservatively as my background is Mormon. Dh is very attractive to Mormon girls. I joke with him about it now lol even though our cultures and countries are different we have a lot in common regarding our families. I lost a parent and so did he. My grandmother was a widow so she lived with my family growing up. I think he factored these things in as u would be more accepting if his family needed to live with us. His family likes Bangladesh and doesn't want to come to the US. [/quote]

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