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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do men with double hyphenated last names tend to do when they get married?

Like say Jane Canniff and John Neubauer get married and become Jane Canniff-Neubauer and John Canniff-Naubauer, and they have a son and name him Sebastian Canniff-Neubauer. What does Sebastian do with his last name when he gets married?

Anyone have any anecdotes of men they’ve known in this situation?

Do they add the wife’s last name on? Sebastian Canniff-Naubauer-Smith and Sally Canniff-Naubauer-Smith?

Do they drop one of the last names and add hers on? Canniff-Smith?

Does the wife take the last names of her father in law and mother in law? Sally Canniff-Neubauer?

Just wondering what people have done in this situation.[/quote]

The Spanish have worked this out.[/quote]

It's true that naming traditions can vary from one country to another, and what works in one place may not be as practical in another. In the United States, it's common for individuals to take their husband's last name upon marriage, and this practice has practical benefits, such as streamlining administrative tasks like taxes, passports, and usernames and emails.

Managing multiple last names can indeed be cumbersome and confusing, and that's one of the reasons many choose to follow the U.S. naming tradition. It's important to recognize that naming practices can differ around the world, and what works best often depends on the specific cultural and administrative context of each country.[/quote]

How in the world would my passport application, username, and emails be made easier if I had changed my last name to my husbands or he to mine?? Seriously please explain that because I do not recall a single instance of having difficulty in any of these situations.

Married 30 years, never has it been cumbersome or confusing to have different last names. And our kids have gone to multiple schools, had numerous doctors including specialists, and we have traveled often and internationally.

Sorry to disappoint you and spoil your narrative which seems rooted in maybe the early 1900’s?[/quote]
Right?  Having a different last name than my husband has caused zero problems for me ever.  I'm American-born, and it never occurred to me that I wanted to change my name.  [/quote]

Fantastic for both of you. I chose to change my name and it has caused me zero problems in my professional life, while traveling, etc. The paperwork was extremely easy, too.

Wouldn’t it be great if women could actually support other women’s decisions instead of trying to one-up each other? [b]Isn’t that the goal here? That we can do what we WANT to do and what feels right for US?[/[/b]quote]

That’s not what OP asked us to discuss.[/quote]

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