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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my husband, but I am so lonely in our marriage. 
Recently, we found out that he has ASD, which explains pretty much everything that's been wrong with our 25-year marriage.
I want to stay married, but I don't know if I can spend the rest of my life with this man who is unable to connect emotionally with me. 
He's somewhat controlling, and he does gaslight me if I don't call him on it. But he doesn't have rages, and he accepts that he has ASD-1/HFA/Aspergers, whatever you want to call it. He's fairly successful at his job, but he is a workaholic. Work is his only interest. He has no hobbies and almost no friends. He gloms onto my friends. 
I feel so lonely and neglected, like a piece of furniture that he sits on when it's convenient for him. 
My question: Does anyone have a happy, fulfilling marriage to an ASD/HFA/Aspergers husband? 
If so, how? How do you make your marriage work? [/quote]

First mourn the marriage. It is not going to be what you or anyone would have signed up for.

If you have kids, socialize as much as possible with others. Know that you are going to be a single parent no matter what. Hire help if you can.

Get a bigger and better support network of friends and family. Tell them what yours going through; many get it.

Have a professional or good set of friends you can really spill the beans to.

Self care.  Eat well.  So vacations with the kids or by yourself if they’re safe. [/quote]

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