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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the 2 year deadline but I think it’s wise for young women to tell men, bluntly, that they are willing to DTR/go exclusive/whatever but the clock is starting and by year 2 they expect to be broken up or planning a wedding. This kind of conversation, in my experience, scares off exactly who it should. [/quote]

That's more or less what I told my now-husband when discussing my plans for after law school.  I would be graduating around the 2-year dating mark (a little less) and I told him straight up that we'd either be engaged and planning a wedding or going our separate ways.  I think it freaked him out a little but he proposed a few months later.  [/quote]

My wife did this to me. I had no thoughts of marriage when I graduated law school at 28 and was prepared to date and party for a while. Then girlfriend now wife gave an ultimatum and I didn't want to lose her[/quote]

Eh, my law school girlfriend did this to me, and we broke up because I didn't want to be pressured into marriage. I ended up getting married to someone else a couple of years later. She did too, but she is supremely unhappy in her marriage and wishes things worked out differently with us. I suspect she gave her now husband (and apparently soon to be ex) an ultimatum too. So, yeah, it doesn't always work out to give ultimatums.[/quote]
But in your head you didn’t care which one you married, just the ultimatum was enough?  [/quote]

Well, it wasn't like I was choosing between the two at the time. I knew that I want to be forced to make a decision on someone else's timeline. I get why she did it, but I didn't want that and thought that someone who acted like that wouldn't be a good spouse.[/quote]

DP. So how long did GF1 wait for you to propose and how long did your wife wait?[/quote]
I bet a million bucks GF1 waited a lot longer. PP passively blames the girlfriend’s ultimatum on why they broke up, but really he just never wanted to marry the girl in the first place, so she wised up and left. Time wasting tale as old as time. [/quote]

Yes. Because the type of a women that he values - the one who doesn't force marriage, also doesn't wait. 
I'm sure he didn't sit around and try to find out if she'd give an ultimatum OR leave. He proposed early![/quote]

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