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[quote=Anonymous]I am the drill sergeant/planner of my family. My wife has ADHD and gets massively overwhelmed on details/arrangements so, I take on the main share of these organizational/executive functioning tasks when it comes to things. Husband here for context. My wife's family came to stay with us (BIL (who is divorced), his youngest 12 year old son, MIL and FIL (whom are divorced). My wife and two kids (8, 10) were here of course.

My wife and daughter came down with strep a week ago which pulled them out of the prep/shopping. I did all of the shopping for food, planned meals with my wife and came up with a schedule of meals/things like museums and outings to do so we aren't sitting around in a circle bored.

My nephew is A LOT. My oldest daughter was like this kid is too much "not like the 12 year olds she knows from school." Like inappropriate conversations where he is going on and on about racism, (we are a multi-racial half black family and he's white), sex (he was talking about how he "accidentally" finds porn on his phone), and murders and my kids are like WTF? Can't we talk about video games or TV shoes or something fun? My daughter (10) basically is like no thanks, I'm done and is keeping her distance. My youngest likes him but the older nephew is a terrible influence. He took my youngest out the woods and they both fell in icy water in the creek behind my yard, which I got admittedly pissed about. I disciplined my kid and explained to him the dangers of playing in icy water even if it seems solid. I didn't say anything to my nephew thinking he dad would handle it. My BIL? Didn't say a word and my nephew has spent the entire weekend trying to go back to the woods to "ice skate". My son won't go (knows better now). Nephew started trying to get my son to wrestle in the house (WTF). I again shut that down with my own kid. BIL didn't say anything and when I said, in a way to get his buy in that wrestling in doors is dumb as hell, dangerous and likely to wreck shit, he basically said, "OP's house, OP's rules." So, I'm the bad guy, which I was like fine. Same thing on Christmas day, I asked the kids to organize their presents into piles in their rooms from the fireplace (I wanted to light a fire) and asked nephew to put his in a reusable TJ Max bag so he wouldn't lose them. Kid was just like, NO. I'm like yeah, no. We're all cleaning. My kids and you so we can have a fire. BIL? Just sat silently and wondered off to get another beer.

Today, I booked the kids time in a bounce house and got them the hell out of here. I'm cleaning up, my wife and BIL took the kids there and to lunch and we have tickets to a show tonight, so time home is basically minimized for this last day).

My FIL is basically deaf and has parkinson's but is in denial of both and goes out of his way to do things himself. He is also incredibly judgmental and is basically keeping a record tab of things that we are doing "wrong" but thankfully is more focused on his son and my nephew to focus on whether our meals are too "rich" or that it's too loud. I hurt my knee running and have a slight limp and he keeps going on about how terrible I look, my back must be shot, etc. from the couch while I am cleaning, serving food, dealing with my kids. But he's in tip top shape! In fact, he's going to use our peloton -- can he borrow my shoes? (The man has zero balance and will fall and break a bone so I say the machine needs updating and divert him to a book. He falls asleep on the couch again).

MIL is a secret eater who refuses food, judges everyone's weight and what they eat, but binges at night while we are sleeping and leaves a mess every morning ("oh, that, I just had a midnight snack and didn't know where to put all those dishes and pans").

Everyone got great presents, things they really wanted, including my wife.

I got a robe. At least, my wife is appreciative of what I've done to host and they are leaving tomorrow.

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