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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Best decision I made in our marriage was to stay at home starting when our first of three was born.  I saw the way things were going fairly early on and recognized that although I could “have it all” with a career - it was going to come at a cost trying to balance everything.  Still happily married nearly 20 years later.  [/quote]

This is what I did too and while DH appreciated it for a long time, now that the kids are teens he is pressuring me to go back because I have "so much time" and yet he has no desire or willingness to change anything about his behavior. He's trying to make it about the money even though he makes 3x what he made when he was totally fine with my staying home, and we own our home and have college and retirement fully on track. Its quite the pickle and I'm not entirely sure how it will be resolved. [/quote]

Well, do you have more time? Can you go back to work part-time? I have high schoolers and they require a lot less parental time than kids in elementary school. 
I don't get your point. Your DH is working the same amount of hours, but your hours taking care of the kids has decreased. The amount of time taking care of house-related stuff presumably has stayed the same. So, the only variable that's changed is that you have more free time on your hands. Just own up to the fact that you don't want to work because you like not working and leading a leisurely life.[/quote]

Why should she go back to work, when they have enough money and her DH likely still wouldn’t contribute to running the household? Then she would be in the exact situation we’re discussing here.[/quote]
Why would anyone work? DH makes $2M+ and I still work and we have two children. I've always worked. If you can't find a part-time job in DC that is intellectually or emotionally fulfilling, especially when you don't need the income, then I would assume that you are limited in some way (intellectually, physically, emotionally, etc.). A grown woman, particularly one who has the benefit of a great education and no need for high income or benefits, should have some sense of, oh I don't know, giving to her community if she is capable. I have friends who are in their 50s with kids now in high school or college, who have not worked since having kids, and they are floundering. Women often need a higher sense of purpose beyond keeping track of the household in order to live a full and meaningful life. [/quote]

Amen and two thumbs up
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