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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Best decision I made in our marriage was to stay at home starting when our first of three was born.  I saw the way things were going fairly early on and recognized that although I could “have it all” with a career - it was going to come at a cost trying to balance everything.  Still happily married nearly 20 years later.  [/quote]

This is what I did too and while DH appreciated it for a long time, now that the kids are teens he is pressuring me to go back because I have "so much time" and yet he has no desire or willingness to change anything about his behavior. He's trying to make it about the money even though he makes 3x what he made when he was totally fine with my staying home, and we own our home and have college and retirement fully on track. Its quite the pickle and I'm not entirely sure how it will be resolved. [/quote]

Well, do you have more time? Can you go back to work part-time? I have high schoolers and they require a lot less parental time than kids in elementary school. 
I don't get your point. Your DH is working the same amount of hours, but your hours taking care of the kids has decreased. The amount of time taking care of house-related stuff presumably has stayed the same. So, the only variable that's changed is that you have more free time on your hands. Just own up to the fact that you don't want to work because you like not working and leading a leisurely life.[/quote]

Not the p(PP), but I am in the same situation. My kids are in HS and I am basically free now with a lot of time. However,  my DH does not want me to work.  He wants me to have a leisurely life now. I am actually ok with it. I have no desire to be going to work for pay either. Would rather work on improving my fitness, travelling and extending my social circle.[/quote]

Vomit. So vapid and entitled. [/quote]

Yes because Microsoft word, PowerPoint and corporate meetings are so meaningful.  [/quote]

What about doing cancer research?[/quote]

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