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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of this is just how hard kids are. Dh and I both were hard working, very clean and loved to cook. 3 kids, tons of promotions later, much larger house and we just cannot keep up. I do 5x more than I did before and Dh is still doing the same. He can’t juggle the way I can. I can’t fault him. He’s wonderful, great father, great husband. I still feel like I’m drowning. Women just can’t have it all. I feel lied to.

I’m constantly shocked at how messy my life and house is. No matter how early I start shoving everyone out the door, we’re always late. The playroom is always messy, there’s constantly food all over the floor

I do a ton more and try not to feel upset about it. I will say that I WANT more than Dh does though. I need the great vacations, wonderful holidays, parties that we throw. and the kids really want that stuff too. Like the kids want birthday parties, decorated house for Christmas, mom showing up to volunteer at their classes all the time. [/quote]

That's why I stopped at two kids and severely limited the decorating and vacations. We take one vacation a year, I don ' have the energy to plan a trip to a Caribbean resort or Europe.
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I also work and I outsource as much as I possibly can (nanny, regular housecleaning, grocery delivery, laundry service, restaurant delivery of healthy food) and I still feel the same way.  Although for vacations, just go to Beaches or Club Med.  All you have to do is show up.  There is no expectation that working parents volunteer at school - kids will forget you ever did it by the time they are adults.  There are things you can do to ease your burden, but it doesn't ever feel like it's enough... [/quote]

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