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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't read most of the thread, but this reminds me of when my sister had a baby. At the time, I was single and visiting. I heard the baby crying in the middle of night and thought I would help my sister out by attending to him. Well, my sister freaked out! She didn't want my nephew getting more wound up with a new person checking in. Now, as a parent, I can totally see why. I had good intentions and believe your mother-in-law does as well.[/quote]

After she freaked out, did you keep checking in night after night?[/quote]

This right here. See how you respected your sister’s wishes not to do it again, PP? See the difference in how MIL did not—she did it several times even after being asked not to?[/quote]

I think people are intentionally forgetting that this is the issue. Not MIL getting up in her own house, or MIL wanting to help out. [/quote]

But we don’t know why she didn’t listen and OP has decided that it was malicious intent instead of giving the benefit of the doubt. It was her choice to be offended and get angry. Her reaction is within her control and others are telling her to relax. The baby is perfectly fine. [/quote]

There is no justification for not listening to and respecting the wishes of parents when it comes to the care of their child outside of senility. [/quote]

That's one stance you can take. Another is that she may have a reason that was not discussed. Either way you can be chill and just get over it. You don't have to make it your hill to die on. It's not like MIL snatched the baby and tried to feed it formula. She did basically, nothing. If someone asking you "what's going on" causes a meltdown then perhaps you need to better control your emotions. Even if it happened, gasp 5 times.[/quote]

List some reasons why it’s OK to keep trying to butt into a situation with a baby ***when the parents have repeatedly asked you not to,*** whether you are a MIL, a best friend, a neighbor, or a stranger in the grocery store that don’t involve senility or some imminent danger like a fire the parents aren’t aware of.

Go on. I’ll wait.[/quote]

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