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[quote=Anonymous][quote]...My wife is being extremely emotional and unwilling to even entertain a calm and rational conversation about me taking my own kid to my brothers wedding. Surely many of you can see that that is not right. Right? She has stated that if i take my son, it will do such irreparable damage to the marriage that we likely wouldn’t survive. How would you respond to this? To those of you who at least can see that I have the right to take my son with me. Help me out here. I’d love to hear how you would frame your argument, and if you’ve ever been in a situation like this before. (One where you disagreed on something regarding your child and how you came to a solution.)[/quote]

Suppose I agree with you (even though I don't) that your wife is being overly emotional and unreasonable.  By continuing to pursue this, you are showing her that you, again, are placing your parents' wishes/opinions above hers.  Whether it is right or wrong, her perception is that you, again, are deomnstrating that you don't value her and that your parents' behavior were acceptable.  You are demonstrating that complying with your parents' wishes is more important than your marriage.

IME, this is not an argument you can win no matter how you try to frame it because it really isn't about whether your kid goes with you or not.  It is about you valuing and respecting your parents more than her and giving your relationship with them more primacy than your relationship with her.   I am sure what you have shared with us are not the only examples of this - at least in your wife's mind.

You don't need an argument.  You need relationship counseling because whether or not your kid goes with you, your marriage is already damaged and you are already on the path that will end your marriage. [/quote]

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