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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really find the fact that there are TWO kitchens to be the deciding point here. OP never complained about ONE of the kitchens being GF. [/quote]
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The problem is, apparently you both haven't read the entire thread. There are not two kitchens. There is a kitchen and a kitchenette. A kitchenette is not sufficient for either family to provide all the necessary meals. The solution that would be best for OP's needs is for her to have the smaller cabin where she can feed her kids all the gluten her picky kids apparently can't live without. This, of course, is pretty selfish considering the other family has a newborn and a younger child, but, hey, her picky kids' needs should rule, at least according to most of the ridiculous posts here. So, OP has to be in the big house, with a gluten free kitchen, and is adamant that a cooler of food or an alternative place to keep her gluten food is simply not adequate. She needs to win. Her picky kids' needs are more important than her nephew with celiac and the rest of her family. 
Completely selfish. Also, it is very, very easy for kids to go a week without gluten and not even notice the difference. Yes, even the precious ones who can only tolerate chicken nuggets. They can't tell the difference between GF nuggets and the others. Unless you tell them. Which, of course, OP is doing.

(And before you ask, I'm not GF and love all the gluten. But I love my friends and family more and if they can't tolerate my food, I change. OP should take a lesson.)[/quote]

Apparently another BIG problem is that YOU haven't read the entire thread. Take this as YOUR lesson op: Op has never once thrown a fit or said something wasn't adequate for her. She has only from the beginning to the end tried to ask for sensible solutions. She's never been an asshole and has even bought gf foods to provide for her kid. She is being more than accommodating for her family, husband, inlaws and the allergic kid as well as her own. She has never once been an asshole pp. are you sure you are on the right thread? [/quote]

You need to work on that reading comprehension, PP. I never called OP an asshole and I didn't say she throw a fit. However, I strongly disagree with your assertion that she has been far more accommodating in her solutions. I find her solutions selfish and her willingness to compromise limited. We can disagree. That's fine on an internet discussion forum. There really is no need to get so upset about this.[/quote]

I have seen OP, herself, suggest 3 solutions.

1) Her family gets the cabin.  (She seemed to withdraw this solution when it was clear that Grandma and the other family reasonably wanted the newborn there so as not to wake others)

2) Searching for gluten free foods her preschooler would eat, and ask that they be included.  (She tried and was not successful).

3) Keeping glutinous bread and other foods in a room the toddler couldn't access.  (This was the final solution).

I don't see how any of these are selfish solutions.  Now, some other people on this thread have been ridiculous, and incredibly selfish on OP's behalf but OP herself does not seem selfish to me.[/quote]

1. This solution is selfish because it puts everyone else in the family out.

2. She told her kids this was different food, which of course they would reject. She should have just kept quiet and feed them the GF equivalents.

3. I did not see OP offer this, so if I'm mistaken, I apologize because this is a reasonable and unselfish solution.

So, we don't completely disagree. I think #3 is the best, most fair solution all around.[/quote]

1) In the OP, she clearly said that she thought they might get the cabin but once she realized the family with the baby wanted it she didn't continue to pursue it and was looking for other solutions.  That's not selfish.  People said that she should demand it, or announce she wasn't going, or insist that because they had the cabin they shouldn't get to feed their kid in the house.  Those people were entitled assholes, but OP isn't the one who said any of those things.

2) How do you possibly know that?

3) She asked early on if that was a reasonable compromise and whether it would be fair to ask for it.  When it became clear that the GF foods would be an issue, her husband called Grandma who agreed to the solution, which seems very reasonable.

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