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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

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TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around.  I don't want to  do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries. [/quote]

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't.  Congrats.[/quote]

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant? [/quote]

Do most people refer to "American families" when they talk about friends and neighbors? I'm not American, (well I am now, but not born and raised here) but I never talk about my "American" friends vs whatever other nationality.  That's not normal.  I agree, she gives immigrants a bad rap.  I don't complain about the US (well Trump, but not US in general), nobody is forcing me to live here. [/quote]

PP's attitude is rampant on DCUM. Some immigrants have a totally transactional view of being in the US. They want to extract whatever wealth and resources they can, while having no interest in assimilation and looking their noses down on Americans. And then they wonder why Americans don't like them, [/quote]

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[b]What’s your point, exactly? If I can maintain my culture while allowing my family to benefit from the resources of the United States, why shouldn’t I? [/b][/quote]

To add to this, no foreigner ever wonders “why” Americans don’t like them.  That’s not actually a question.  Everyone already knows the “why.”[/quote]

Actually, I think any American who dislikes immigrants is reacting to the exact sentiment expressed by the PP.  It is pretty entitled to say that you want to come here to "benefit from the resources of the United States" without assimilating.  You are defying the entire point of the United States and giving the big middle finger to its citizens.  We can do fine without you.[/quote]

It’s not even about the not assimilating. That’s a little bit annoying, but whatever. The problem is the immigrants who are actively disdainful of Americans and their culture and talk about how they don’t want to raise their kids with American values. Who wants that in their community?[/quote]

Why do you think we SHOULD do everything that Americans do if we know better and if we feel it's not good for our kids? We didn't come here to blindly worship America. Maybe you could learn something from us? [/quote]

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