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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every big city has people like this, because they gravitate toward big cities. [/quote]

Specifically, people like this gravitate toward big cities after college graduation, because this is where they will have a better likelihood of meeting a spouse and also hone their type-A personality at work (Regardless of where they continue to work long-term). What the big city they go to is depends a little on interests, college, and where they are from originally, but every major US city (New York, Chicago, DC, SF, LA, Dallas, etc.) will all draw these types.

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I agree with this, and know that a major reason this personality type bothers me is because I used to be like this. And I moved to the area because I was like this. And then I went through some things that made me stop being like this, but in the meantime got married, built a career, and had kids. So now I find myself aggravated by this personality and know I could probably get away from the worst of it by changing fields or moving, but doing so is challenging at midlife because of fairly deep ties to this area and a lot invested in my career and especially my present position (which I like a lot).

I don't blame people for being like this. Like I'm not mad at them for being ambitious or aggressive. Maybe sometimes in the moment I feel frustrated with them, but mostly I realize that my values and priorities have shifted and that's all it is. I just don't think this way anymore.

The hardest part for me is raising my kids in a community where these attitudes are common, and trying to fight it in my own parenting. My oldest is almost in MS and I think that's going to be the critical point for my spouse and I. He is not like this at all and never has been (that's part of why I changed) and it's not what we want our kids to believe. Yet here we are. I understand this is a challenge of our own making, but it is a challenge nonetheless.[/quote]

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