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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it OP. We got an email about the "class gift" for one of my kids teachers earlier this week and they haven't sent the money yet because last week I did the money for the PTA fund, the money for the fund to give bonuses to specials teachers, I write thank you cards for each of my kids' EC coaches, and I ordered photo books for both sets of grandparents featuring highlights from their visits with our kids this year.

DH also got the class gift email. He also has Venmo.

If I asked him to do it, he would. He'd also be bewildered -- why ask when it's just a minute in my phone to do it? But it's not really about this one task. So instead i'm sitting on it and feeling resentful, and in the back of my head I'm thinking how the class mom is likely annoyed at me and others who haven't contributed yet, and that's fair because she's going above and beyond in organizing, and yet no one is annoyed with my husband. Except me.

[b]The difference in expectations for moms and dads is vast.[/b][/quote]

I'm a mom and a [b]room mom [/b]and a full-time lawyer for a huge firm. I send emails to all the parents in the class asking for things. Whether the moms or the dads answer is up to that family. I also have no problem whatsoever telling people that something is my husband's responsibility and not feeling bad about it. [b]Where are these different expectations coming from?[/b] If someone is telling you they think you, as the mom, was responsible for a specific task because you're a woman, I would say no, in our household we are both responsible for that, and move on. If you're putting the expectations on yourself, then that's your problem. [/quote]

You’re suggesting expectations are the same, but referred to yourself as the room MOM in the same post. [/quote]

Yes, I'm a room mom. There are also room dads. What's your point? I call them generally room parents but [b]I[/b] am a room mom. Because I'm a mom. [/quote]

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