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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mid 40s guy here.  I'm have a great wife, kids, all that stuff.

I'm reading through this thread and all the comments just seem like from some alternate, awful, reality.  Men and women jabbing at each other over weird stereotypes and generalities.

Do people in general really have it so bad in terms of finding good relationships?

Maybe I live in a bubble, but is seems like there are a lot of normal seemingly successful and happy nuclear families around.[/quote]

You live in a bubble.  Back when you were young, there was social infrastructure for people to go out and meet and just have fun.  Women would go out and drink and sometimes be receptive to being approached.  With the apps today, women already have all the men they want.  Well, they have men who will pump them but not date them.  The women think it's fine to chase their dream guys and then later settle.  The problem is the guys with whom they would settle get bitter and leave the scene because men don't marry someone who think she's settling for him.  You can't have a good marriage with that relationship as the foundation.

Back to your bubble, all the data suggest that marriage rates and fertility rates are decreasing in the US.  Just because you didn't experience it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.  Also, young women today are different.  I encourage you to talk to young men and hear what they have to say rather than take my word for it.  [/quote]

I have a 20 something kid who is a geeky STEM kid and he has no problem getting girls.  All non-STEM…one fromer GF is an actress who actually gets work in NYC theatre.

His argument is you need confidence and be willing to put yourself out there.  I guess he is just wired a certain way as he has had GFs nearly continuously since a freshman in HS.

His current GF is an Ivy college grad…she seems completely normal.  They both are left-leaning but nothing crazy.  No blue hair or duck lips or tattoos or piercings.[/quote]

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