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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD has said she was a teen that she didn't want kids. Ha-ha ok you will change your mind is what everyone always told her. No, she's never wavered. She's in her late 20s and has been married for 3 years now (with her husband for 8 years total). She just told me that she found a doctor who was willing to do a tubal ligation so she could be done with birth control. It felt like a gut punch when she told me.

DS is in his early 30s and is getting married this fall. He's been with his fiancée for 4 years and they too have told us they have zero desire for kids. I thought for sure they would have kids as she's an elementary teacher and works at a kids camp in the summer.

How do I get over these feelings of failure? I know I raised great kids but at the same time, I feel like both are being selfish and it makes me angry. Is this something therapy helps with? 
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Well OP you can hope that your daughter gets raped by some Vance loving incel and she’s forced to give birth. You can hope that birth control fails for your DS and his fiancé and they are forced to have kids. Yes this will be horrible and traumatic for them but you’ll get what you want.[/quote]

Or--hear me out--she could hope her kids wake up to the reality that [b]the most important and best thing people will ever do with their lives is raise their children in a loving marriage[/b].  [/quote]
Where is the puke emoji[/quote]

Sorry you haven't enjoyed the blessings described in that post.  It's truly a miracle and everyone should experience it.  A life of service to others surpasses a life of self-interest, and there is no better service than that for your family.  [/quote]

Not everyone wants this.[/quote]

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