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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i thought ina gartner's fresh air interview was really relatable, she said she and her husband split because she realized she wanted a partner and not a breadwinner.  I definitley feel that way.  running a house alone and raising kids alone is not fun.  not worth it imo.  my husband and i walk our three kids to school.  he works on math homework while i drill spelling.  we take turns cooking and cleaning.  i have no desire to do all of this with household staff that i have hired.  would rather be single.  not the life for me, anyway.  [/quote]

What if the HHI was different?

When Dh and I first got married, we had a HHI of roughly 500k split even. When we had children, I mommy tracked because I was missing my kid’s bedtime every night and I only got to see my kid awake 1 hour per day. We had 3 kids and I eventually stayed home and Dh now earns a seven figure income.

Would you rather both earn 200-300k each split evenly or have one person earn $1 or $2m?[/quote]
Dp
I'd lean to one earning 1 or 2m but that could change here and there for periods of time. I can see the benefits of both and never nay say one choice over the other unless someone is constantly pining for sahm life while working or always dreaming of working while being a sahm, those people need to find a way to fix their lives to make it more bearable with what they can work with.[/quote]

Having one earning spouse is scary on multiple levels - job loss, divorce, health problems, death, just to name a few.  We both work extremely flexible jobs for 300k each.  The balance is better and with the 401k tax advantages, pensions (we both have a pension), backdoor roth, etc we are probably better off financially than on 1M single income.  Did I mention MUCH lower risk with w incomes.[/quote]

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