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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What makes you think more boys want to play sports than girls?

So many girls are cut every year from soccer at our school, same thing happens with tennis, basketball, softball,lacrosse, now flag football … it goes on and on.

What’s especially frustrating at our school is when coaches decide to take less than the allowed roster size “to make it easier on them.”

The corollary is how “it’s so hard for them” (the coaches) to make cuts.

[b]When you are literally hurting kids’ self esteem and self worth and taking away an identity they have had since kindergarten in many cases,[/b] don’t make it about you and how hard it is for you to make cuts or how much easier it is for you to take a smaller roster.

And please don’t cut kids in front of other kids.  It’s not a reality show.

I understand that smaller rosters may be more streamlined and easier to coach and understand that cuts must be made.  I only wish the coaches had just an ounce of emotional intelligence.

Or how about some new policies?[/quote]

Or, you're literally teaching kids life lessons about success and failure, how to deal with it, and adapt and move on.[/quote]

Yes, you are also teaching that when you cut a kid.  But it’s not about YOU (the coach). It’s not about how hard it is for you, or how bad you feel about it, or how you just really prefer the smaller roster.

Keep in mind you are hurting a child and don’t make it about YOU. Even in high school, they are still kids.[/quote]

Man up when making cuts. This is literally part of your job. Do it privately, not in front of other kids or parents, be respectful and honest.  And at no point should the conversation be about you or how difficult it is for you.

Let the kids know what they need to do to make the team next year but be honest in saying it still might not be enough or they may only be a practice player or bench player.

Try to give them something that they have done that is positive.  (You are in fact shattering them after all.). But if there is no real chance they will ever make the team, be honest about that too.  Do not lie. Kids can smell that a mile away.

If there are club teams or other opportunities you can let them know about, do that too.

Don’t make jokes. None of this is funny for the athletes you are cutting.  Don’t compare to other athletes.

Document objective standards for why they didn’t make the team in case you need to follow up with leadership, the athlete, or parents. Hopefully, you’re not one of those coaches who is picking kids based on favorites or their parents or who attended your camp or who knows what - if so, you should be ashamed of yourself and find some integrity. News flash: every kid knows when you do this and it creates terrible culture.[/quote]

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