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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parenting standards have changed so much.  In the 80s nobody would question a 7 year old left in the car.  Now we do.   I won't be surprised when there are fewer babies born as the laws and requirements become even stricter for the next generation.[/quote]

I don't think people are not having childten because children can't be left in the car!

How about women are tired of doing it all abd not getting help![/quote]

Np. Sometimes the help we need is to leave the kid in the car for 5 min. It’s hard dragging them in for tiny errands like dropping off a package at ups[/quote]

Agree. It seems like such a small thing but it adds up. I live in a place where I can never leave my kid alone in a car (due to both the law and the fact that my area really just is not safe) and it creates all these logistical challenges that are a pain to figure out. If I take a sick kid to urgent care and they call in a prescription I have to take the sick kid into the pharmacy to pick it up on the way home or I have to take the kid home and wait for my spouse to get home from the office and then go get it (delaying when the kid can take medication). If we take our cat to the vet I have to finagle the kid and the cat from the car to the door of the vet which sucks because the carrier is heavy. If I forget something in our apartment when we go out of the house I have to unstrap the kid and bring her inside and do the whole thing all over again. It's exhausting.

I hate living in this city with a kid in part because I feel like nowhere is safe for her. DH's job has trapped us here for a few more years and I fantasize about living in a small town or a nice safe suburb where this wouldn't be so hard. And now y'all are telling me that you don't think people should be able to leave a 7 yr old in the car for 5 minutes at a pharmacy in a quiet and safe suburb because... reasons. It's ridiculous. I love being a mom but sometimes it feels like society is set up specifically to make it as hard as possible for no reason. I guarantee you that if men were the ones who were more likely to be out running errands with kids the cultural norm would be that of course you can leave a kid in the car and of course a security guard should keep one eye out for that kid. Because we design the world for men's convenience and women's burden.[/quote]
It was really fun being banned from bringing older sibs to prenatal appointments while pregnant. I kept my high-risk pregnancy with midwives far longer than I should have because they make an attempt to honor appointment times. I have no idea what singe mothers of multiple kids do, what do you do if one of your kids is hospitalized? Zero help for moms, only judgment. [/quote]

Single mothers build their own village of friends, colleagues and neighbors if they don't have any family in town. [/quote]

I'm a military wife. So not single but solo parenting about 70% of the time (and 100% of the time fur months at a time). People always say to me "well at least you all have each other and the military fir support." Bull crap. I mean yes-- military wives help each other out and IF you are stationed at certain bases there is a network. But if you think that replaces having a society that actually gives a crap about kids or families, you're wrong. I'm tough and I don't complain but it doesn't mean I don't think the way this country treats moms and kids is stupid. Especially after being stationed in Germany for 2 years and seeing how other cultures do it.

Had it been me I would have told that security guard what for. He was wrong and needs to be educated. He was just mad that a kid in a car required him to actually do his job for 5 minutes (be alert and pay attention, call for help if needed) instead of sit on his laaaaasazy butt and pick his nose.

But sure, let's yell at the mom who is running errands with a kid in tow. Apparently she's the lazy one. Mmmhmm okay, sure.[/quote]

You wouldn't have posted looking for support like OP did. [/quote]
So it's ok if you far short of "standards" as long as you are quiet and ashamed about it. [/quote]

She said she was tough and the military wives I know would not have posted about this. They are tough and too busy to whine about small things. [/quote]
So essentially yes. Fantastic. I have to say this thread is very illuminating as to why such a large percentage of middle aged women are on SSRIs [/quote]

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