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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future. [/quote]

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL. [/quote]

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.[/quote]

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues. [/quote]

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.[/quote]

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving.  This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.[/quote]

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid. [/quote]

That does work with some strong willed children because it puts the decision more in their hands.  Different tricks work with different kids IME.  I have three extremely strong willed children.  It would probably depend on how much the kid really didn’t want to go, how much they cared about potentially being left, how much they hate the shoes, etc.  for some kids, the trigger is just being told to put the shoes on, not actually the shoes or the leaving.  I definitely had one kid that if I said “let’s go” he would say “no” but if it just said “I’m leaving” and walked out the door, he would generally follow.  That also works with the dog when he doesn’t want to go on a walk.  [/quote]

It works for my strong willed child.[/quote]

Then they aren't that strong willed. Mine would have a tantrum about it for 15 minutes then maybe put the shoes on but would take them off and throw them around in the car while still crying about it. I have 3 kids, but one is truly "strong willed" and goes to great lengths to avoid doing the right thing.[/quote]

The point it that OP's strategy does NOT mean she is scared of her 4 year old.[/quote]

Then she didn't set the kid or grandma up for success in this situation. How did they even get into a battle of wills while OP was still "in the shower" and the other 2 were walking out the door arguing about shoes? [/quote]

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