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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In a world where being youngest in the class is strongly correlated with ADHD diagnosis and medication (something that generally holds true across the world, including places that strictly bar redshirting*), it strikes me as entirely unethical to demand families not redshirt. You don’t get to demand another child goes down a likely medical pathway because you are willing to take on that risk for your own child.

* The only place where the study results haven’t been replicated is the one country that allows parents a large two-year leeway in start time decisions. [/quote]

My youngest has neither of those issues.  If you hold back saying your kid has issues you should be required to get them help.  [b]Time does not cure those things and they need support. [/quote][/b]

This is demonstrably false.

If all kids who are redshirted need therapeutic intervention, and time won’t cure their pathology, why are so many redshirt kids thriving? Why do you not hear parents regretting their choices and saying, oh, no, if only I had  let my late blooming child be the youngest in the class, and instead gotten therapeutic intervention?

Some kids are late bloomers, and some kids are early bloomers. If your kid is in an early bloomer, then they’re fine with being the youngest in the class, and many kids will thrive that way. If your kid is a late bloomer, then may be doing them a disservice by letting them be the youngest.  And it seems absolutely batshit to me to put them through therapy when all they need is time.

My kid is in a private school that offered a strong recommendation that he do an extra year. You know what? They were absolutely right. Those 12 months were all he needed to go from being anxious and emotionally overwhelmed at the end of the day to happy and thriving.  I will never be sorry that we went with the school recommendation.

Kids develop differently.  If my late bloomer had not been born in the summer, he might’ve been fine with his school-year cohort. Or if he’d been born in the summer, but an early bloomer.  But he wasn’t, so we made a choice.  It’s worked out great. I can’t see that we should have sacrificed his well-being for your arbitrary desire to have a 12 month classroom span. [/quote]

The issue though is that these 'late bloomers' are then being compared to kids much younger than them- so they likely could still have the same issues that really should have been addressed but they are artificially covered up because they're 1+ years older than kids in the same class. There's a huge difference between a 5 and 6 year old.[/quote]

Thanks for your concern! My “late-bloomer” is doing wonderfully despite his “issues” not being “addressed”. I do appreciate your solicitousness about his well-being. But sometimes all kids need is time, not intervention. I trust schools and parents to make that call. [/quote]

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