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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update now that we're a few weeks away from the wedding.

Dh and I declined the wedding invite. FIL, MIL, and BIL accepted. The 3 of them (and the kids) booked an airbnb.

SIL texted me this morning asking if I know any babysitters in that area- no, who knows babysitters 2 hours away from home in the middle of nowhere? She said she's annoyed because BIL is taking the kids with no plans for childcare during the wedding.

It definitely felt like she wanted me to either offer to take off work and drive there to watch her kids or offer to watch her kids at my house, but again we declined the wedding precisely because it's a Friday afternoon, DH and I have work, our oldest has school, and we would have no childcare available. [/quote]

She asked you a question and you answered it. Stop trying to make this into a thing. She's not expecting you to drop everything and watch her kids 2 hours away. That's you desperately reading into this to keep this whole thing going.[/quote]

Disagree since SIL texted to ask if OP knew of sitters in the wedding locality.  That group rented an airbnb so if the wedding reception is at a nice hotel there is no opton to explore concierge supplied sitter lists.  And if they got a sitter via the concierge there would be no easy roam between the 3 -BIL/MIL/FIL to the room.

So if they chose an airbnb over the venue hotel?  Makes it even sillier.  [/quote]

You never know who knows what, or for where. I don’t think SIL is wrong for *asking*, as she has no idea if OP has been to that area before, or if she had already done some research.[/quote]

Yet, I'm sure if OP knew sitters in the area she would have provided that info to the BIL when this all came down. It's not like OP, or anyone, would have kept that knowledge to herself.  Of course the SIL was hinting/hoping OP would change her mind.  So obvious. [/quote]

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