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That's really unfortunate that you didn't have a great homelife.  Same going for your child.  You should do better.  And, that's a normal schedule around here and yet kids seem to manage to spend time with their families.  [/quote]

That's a normal schedule around here, you are right.  But it doesn't leave many hours for spending time at home with families. Maybe just one or at most two waking hours a day, during the school day, and that's totally normal and fine.

The point is, MOST parents of MOST older teens do not spend a whole lot of time with their 17 year olds, at home, just hanging out. An hour or two at most. Spending time with older teenagers and "bonding" with them means meeting them on their terms, basically being there and supporting them when THEY need it. And a lot of that time can actually be spent at a distance if necessary, helping them know how to handle a tricky social issue (or for my college kid, coaching him through a problem with a professor) and often they reach out for help at 11 PM or some very late time like that. Being responsive and listening - that's the way you bond with an older teen or young adult.

It's not through forced time spent physically in your house, away from your friends and activities. That is going to blow up in your face.
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