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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does division of labor in a two adult partnership have to be SO gender-based?

Women do the non-paid labor, men made the decisions that impact lots of people or make lots of money. Men have offices and staff, women wash dishes, vacuum and dress drooling toddlers.

If we are actually intellectual equals, why is this not offensive? (And who thinks it is not sending negative messages, to the children growing up in such environments?)[/quote]

My husband and I met in college. I was actually a much better student than him. He respects my intellectual abilities because of this. But when we had kids, I genuinely wanted to be with my babies and preschoolers. I had a lot of fun back then and remember it very fondly. My kids are school aged now but I SAH for other reasons (teen has some mental health struggles which more support and oversight, I have a chronic health condition, we like to travel frequently and enjoy the flexibility of not having to work around 2 job schedules, DH travels for work last minute a lot). He makes a lot of money so we have no financial concerns. He could quit and retire early if he wanted to.

I own that I actively made this choice. It’s worked for us and, health issue aside, I’ve been very lucky.

It’s strange to me that you would look at our situation and see it anything other than incredible privilege.[/quote]

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