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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I have decided that I'll commit suicide in the near future (or at least sometime before I have to make this decision). My life will never be mine. Some people aren't meant to have meaningful or fulfilling lives. [/quote]

Hey OP, I was you. I couldn't decide what I wanted to major in and I just felt so hopeless. Originally I thought I liked math and sciences but almost failed college chemistry. I switched my major 4 times and then decided to drop out because I didn't have the money not to have a plan. I was so depressed and had no idea what I was going to do, I just knew college wasn't the place for me. I honestly thought I was a failure and that life was never going to get better. When I told my parents I was dropping out, they absolutely freaked out and basically said I was on my own.

Not having the money to get my own place, I took a child and infant first aid and CPR class and then started interviewing for live-in nanny positions. I got a job with a wonderful family in the midwest and it was the best decision I could have made. The parents were so positive and supportive and treated me like their own daughter. While taking care of the kids was challenging at times, it got me out of my head and forced me to be active and gave me my confidence back. Seeing the kids get excited about the outings and activities I planned for them was such a rewarding experience and my depression honestly just went away. I had no living expenses and was able to save everything I made. Saving this money also helped with my depression because it made me feel like I was getting control of my life again, I felt like I had options and became excited about the future. Then I met my now husband (he worked for the family I nannied for) and dating him also gave me more confidence and made me feel good about myself. I barely talked to my family during that time (they thought I was throwing my life away), but not talking to them allowed me to stop worrying about what they thought of me and that was also really good for my mental health.

I'm not saying I have all the answers for you, but you are obviously in a dark place right now, and in my experience making a major life change is sometimes what is needed to get you excited about life again. You are so young and have so many options. Forget about school for the moment. Life can change so quickly, you just need to take some chances and get yourself excited about living again.     [/quote]

OP is Asian, likely never interacted with young children before in babysitting capacity. 
She will probably get even more depressed after seeing the kids hate her.[/quote]

As a mother of young children, OP is a terrible fit for a nannying position.  Please don’t foist her on some unsuspecting toddlers.[/quote]

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