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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, life is full of ups and downs.  You had a bad visit.  Get over it and move on.  Your MIL was just trying to be helpful.  Also, don’t tell people how to keep their doors at night or offer white noise machines.  That’s rude.  Your MIL probably was hoping you would ask her to change the baby and comfort her until you and DH had used the bathroom, but was unsure of how to ask.  It wouldn’t have killed you to let her change the baby or soothe her back to sleep.  I’m sure she was so excited to have the baby there.  [b]You are way too rigid[/b]. Stop making it a her vs you situation.  [/quote]

This isn’t the grave insult you guys think it is. There is nowhere in the universe a gracious hostess stands outside her guests bedroom door talking loudly in the middle of the night, night after night, after being asked not to.  Asking for peace and quiet at night is not “rigid” whether you have a baby or not![/quote]

It sounds like the MIL asked questions in a normal tone of voice at a time when every person in the house was awake. [/quote]
The parents of the baby were capable of handling the situation. What was the need for MIL to insert herself repeatedly?[/quote]

Maybe the MIL was concerned something wrong because it doesn’t take two adults to change a diaper and feed a baby.[/quote]
+1
The whole set in stone routine of who does why, when each adult goes to the bathroom, etc is weird. Part of having kids is to go with the flow and teach the kids flexibility, too. It shouldn’t take 2 adults to do a quick middle of the night change/feed[/quote]

Yeah, that’s how husbands wind up doing nothing. My first kid was wide awake after night feeds and it would take an hour to get him back to sleep. You’d better believe we had a routine like OP describes for the first few months. No way was I going to do all the feedings and then also stay up an extra hour each time to get him back to sleep. Especially because I also snap awake and have trouble going back to sleep, and DH doesn’t.

Second kid was more chill (or maybe I was more chill) and I did them myself, but I don’t judge or blame new parents for doing what works for them. [/quote]

The issue is both parents shouldn't be up at the exact same time. Why is that necessary? Take turns. Mom nurses the baby hands it off to dad, goes back to bed, dad rocks and soothes puts baby to sleep, then he goes back to bed. Why is both people shuffling around the room at the same time beneficial? It might be fair, but it doesn't make sense.[/quote]

Who the hell cares why? The point is there are already two adults who are the parents of the baby handling it and Grandma needs to butt. out.[/quote]

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