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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP your responses make it clear how you feel about your MIL.  Ask yourself would you be as bitter if it were your own mother?  It's a long time you'll have this woman in your life, if you're lucky, so you'd better lose your attitude now if you want your child to have a relationship with her.  (And no, I'm not a mother in law, but a mother who couldn't stand her own mother in law.)[/quote]

My mom listens when I speak and respects my decisions. So there's that. That's what I am bothered by: we communicated before and during the trip. When someone doesn't listen to you or doesn't respect your decisions, it is irritating and hurtful.

I'm not "bitter," I am annoyed and hurt. DH felt the same way--"Why won't she listen?"

I think I'll take the PP's suggestion that we will only stay in a hotel when we visit them, and suggest they stay in a hotel if they don't want to risk hearing a little disturbance until baby is 100% STTN even on travel.[/quote]

You really don't get it, do you?

You keep saying that she did not respect your decision... BUT you only get to decide what YOU do, not what other adults do.

She did not try to stop what you wanted to do with your baby. But you are mad because you could not stop what she did with her son/grandchild.

I predict that you will eventually driven a wedge between your husband and his mom.[/quote]

This x1000.  OP, you will be much happier if you tone down your own behavior and you change your expectations to only be about what you are doing.  It is her house.  She has a right to be up and walking around in her house.  You cannot expect her to go to her room and stay there.  That's crazy.  I also agree with the PP's assessment that your reaction to this is going to start a chain reaction with your husband and he is going to resent that you aren't trying to get along with his mom.[/quote]

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