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[quote=Anonymous][quote]You all really think this man should fork over FOUR HUNDRED K just because he’s been banging her mother for the past few years?[/quote]

I don't see how you got to $400,000, but I am not blaming the stepfather for his attitude. I am blaming the MOTHER. IMO, she owes a duty of loyalty to her D and had the obligation to check on the effect marriage would have on her D's ability to receive financial aid.

My hunch.....wealthy stepdad didn't want to pay for stepD's college. In my book, that was his right. He probably made it clear to mom that he would not pay for stepD's college before they married. There's probably a prenup and that's part of what's in it. That's probably why mom cannot even discuss the issue with him. He probably told her his position before they married and got her to agree in writing. His willingness to marry her was probably conditioned on her acceptance of the fact that he would not pay AND that his assets will go to his children.

She agreed because she wanted the lifestyle and didn't even THINK about what this could mean for her D. Yes, if someone asked me to sign a prenup stating that I would not ask him to contribute $ to pay for my kids' education, I certainly would try to figure out how I could pay for it and whether being married would matter. Moreover, if it did matter A LOT, I would tell that man that I could not marry him until my kids finished college UNLESS he would pay for their college.

If he is as wealthy as mom claims and she earns as little as she claims and they file a joint tax return, he pays a lot less income tax as a result. If stepD is claimed as a dependent, that also decreases his taxes slightly. It also stops some last minute effort to claim that her dad has custody of her.

The $30,000 mom has saved is about enough to pay for ONE year of college at U Maryland.(Upthread, someone said it's curently $28,000, it will probably go up a bit before D actually enrolls.)$30,000 is not enough for her to go to an overseas school for "free,"as suggested above, because she still has to pay for living expenses and if you look at the amounts listed plus fees, she might be able to get through 2 years at most IF she didn't return to the US during those 2 years AND the exchange rate doesn't move in the wrong direction.

I'm not familiar with the laws of the nations listed, but at least in the UK, the number of hours a foreign student can work is severely limited; it's unlikely that the D can work enough to earn the remaining costs. So, that really isn't a workable plan.

20 years ago, it was possible to work your way through many public universities without going into much debt. That's really not easy to do now. It's probable that U Maryland will cost about $120,000 for 4 years and it would be nearly impossible for the D to borrow and earn $90,000.

The way the message says the D can live with mom and stepdad during breaks and summers suggests living at "home" and commuting to a community college isn't even an option. 
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