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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I Read the post. Seems women want to the term "stopped caring" a lot, which still sounds me vs. he, two sided.  As an outsider reading all this for the first time, it sounds like you all have grown up a bit: not so much as "stopped caring", but more of "stopped being so needy (and clingy").

Congrats, you have moved to the second stage of marriage where you are maturing. But don't pat yourselves on the back too hard because you haven't reached stage 3 yet.
1. Dependence 
2. Independence
3. Interdependence

If you bother to read the old fogies, like the late M. Scott Peck's books (e.g. "The Road Less Travelled"), you'll see that most marriages are lost at stage 1, some make it to stage 2 (OP for example), and fewer make it to stage 3, which is love.  It takes around 26 years to get to stage 3 and be completely and utterly grown up and in love both.  So you are on the right track but I would suggest you don't get too smug and fail to miss the boarding call for stage 3 or you'll be left standing in the rain at the station.  The Road Less Traveled book is for anyone who wants to or needs to grow up, not just those in a relationship.  If you find the book changed your life, start a thread!
Good luck,
Married to an 81 year old[/quote][/quote]

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