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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Years and years of travel with multiple kids, and one thing I've learned is that it's a balance.  Good clubs know how to nurture and develop players, and at age 9, to inspire them to become better.  The anticipation of being able to play and put what they work on during the week into the game is an important part of the experience.  Not every kid played at the same level, but all played where they could actually play.  It made them better players and better teammates.  They learned so much from being able to get on the field. [/quote]

I agree with this entirely. But apparently if I recommend that people have a dialog with their coach about how their kid can improve what I am really saying is kids should play only ten minutes a game and be happy about it.

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I've never found those conversations to be helpful, and they are very often punitive, no matter how it is approached.  What I have taught them is to ask the coach themselves and take responsibility for that and to listen to the evaluations carefully. If they have a bad experience one year, it's a life lesson. Work hard, learn what you can and then after the commitment is over, we find somewhere else to play.  If it's not a good fit, that's ok. [b]But if someone can get their DC released and get that refund, that's awesome.  That club deserves kudos for doing the right thing when most clubs wouldn't.[/b] [/quote]

And I have found the conversations to be helpful.

Everything you say is fine but I strongly discourage leaving mid season for anything less than a toxic and abusive atmosphere. The industry standard for travel soccer playing time is 50%, not equal.

The OP will not get a refund, at best just simply released and no further billing. But a refund is not going to happen. What I would do is the following:
1. Talk to current coach. See if a development plan can be put together.
2. Regardless of coaches conversation reach out to other clubs and try and attend some practices.
3. Stay with team through spring while working with other clubs. If things improve at the main club re-evaluate. If they do not then leave at the end of the season for one of the clubs you tried and liked best.[/quote]

Where are you getting that from?  I never ever said that. I said the opposite:   I indicated staying the full year and said that's what I did with my own kids.  That it was taken as a life lesson.

Each family has to weigh the risks for themselves.  Talking to a coach may make it better and could make it worse.  It's up to each family to decide if they think it's worth the risk.  One thing I saw, not to my kid, but another on the team.  Every time the dad spoke up, the next practice the coach would have the kid do a drill with the whole team watching and then he'd pick him apart.  The first time, the parents thought it was fluke, odd thing. But by the third time, they got the message.  The coach was not to be spoken to. And I know the dad. He's a very calm rational guy.  He simply asked some questions.  But his kid got punished.

The reality is not every coach will get it right, any more than every teach or boss.  It happens.  These guys are not saints. [/quote]

Where are you getting that from?  I never ever said that. I said the opposite:   I indicated staying the full year and said that's what I did with my own kids.  That it was taken as a life lesson.

[quote]But if someone can get their DC released and get that refund, that's awesome.  That club deserves kudos for doing the right thing when most clubs wouldn't[/quote]

What would a refund be implying if not a mid season change?[/quote]

Sure, I think that what that club did was admirable.  They made a mistake in picking that child up, the parents reached out to the club, and they worked out a solution that did indeed involve releasing the child.  I think that is commendable.  That doesn't mean I think that everyone could or should do that, but that is an example of a positive experience of communicating with the club, just as what I mentioned is an example of the total opposite.  You have to read it in context.  But I still said in multiple posts about players leaving at the end of the year. [/quote]

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