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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey, Ms. "Everyone get so defensive when asked why they only have one kid, they must subconsciously know they are selfish,"

Please point to the question in here:

[quote]I think it's a shame that people limit themselves to one child [b]so they can live in a small house or apartment in an over-priced area and afford private school if necessary[/b]. Having siblings is a good thing for so many reasons. Most of the folks I know who decided to "stop at one" did so because they're not willing to give up anything for their kids, rather than because they think it's the best environment for a child. Not criticizing. Just keeping in real. [/quote]You can't, can you?  Asking the question is fine.  Making inflamatory, offensive statements criticizing others' choices is certainly your right, but don't be surprised when others react strongly.  Saying just having one child is "a shame" and the result of parents who are "not willing to give anything for their kids" is offensive, and acting wounded when you're called on it (and attributing the reaction to defensiveness and the subconscious knowledge that you are correct) is either intellectually dishonest or intellectually deficient.  So, which are you?  [/quote]

OP of that post here.  I said that limiting your family to one child is a shame if the reason is to live in an overpriced area or because you insist on sending your kid to "just the right" private school and you can only afford to do that with one child. Children are not pets that you have mainly to magnify your own ego or just something to have as long as they don't intrude too much on your pursuit of material satisfaction. If you have a medical conditioon that makes it impractical to raise another child or your relationship falls apart, that's different. But if you have a child because you've always wanted an Audi and a baby and now that you have one of each, your needs are satisfied, that's pretty selfish.  You and others (only kids and parents of only kids mainly) can get as snarky as you like, but it doesn't alter the fact that if the main consideration for your family size is YOU, YOU , YOU  and what's most convient for YOU, YOU, YOU, then, yes, you're being very selfish. [/quote]

PP's lack of reasoning is hilarious. You don't think that there are people out there who have more children because that's what parents want, rather than what's best for the child? Parents who project that their 2 year old "wants a sibling" and therefore have another kid--really, what idiot thinks that a 2 year old's views on raising a child should be taken into account? Not to mention the fact there are many families who have multiple children because having 3 or more kids is a status symbol in this expensive town, or else have multiple kids to inflate their husband's sense of manliness. There are parents who have multiple kids because they think that they (can't speak for the kids) are going to heaven by not using birth control or having an abortion. I won't elaborate upon the sacrifices women make both of themselves and to the public good when they have to give up careers to raise multiple kids. Or, on the flip side, what do you think of women who work and therefore have to hire full-time nannies to raise multiple kids--is that being selfish, if so, to whom? What about parents who raise only one child for environmental reasons--they produce far fewer carbon emissions than large families who live out in the burbs. Finally, your equating an Audi to private school education is also pretty outrageous.

You ought to develop better reasoning skills before you spout off your ridiculous opinions.

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