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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it that sex seems to be a right of marriage, but actual EQUAL partnership seems negotiable and not worth it to men. 
I am not too tired for sex. I am too tired for sex with my DH after I work 45 hours a week at work, do carpooling for the kids both ways, all of the school related stuff, all of the grocery shopping, clothes shopping, cooking and vehicle maintenance (he rides public transport). He gets 60 minutes alone in the AM after the kids and I leave and gets to come home to a cooked meal every night there is not a kid activity.

I get the house vacumed 1x per week and the lawn mowed 1x per month. 
WOW! Thanks, awesome. 
[b]Even when i ask for more help you would think i am asking him to cut off his penis and feed it to the dog. [/b]
But, when he crawls into bed at night and has sexual energy I should just jump up and down and do all i can to please him? Yeah, not really feeling that. [/quote]

This is where he needs to cook and clean up a few nights of the week. Why should you have 2 jobs? He also needs to watch the kids so you get a night out to yourself. This is what we did and have been marriage long term. Some of my friends divorced for this very reason.

Have you talked to him about the division of household chores and kids? [/quote]

See, you can’t even correctly read a post for 30 seconds. [/quote]

Calm down. I read it but didn't sound like has really voiced what a big problem it is. Why is she mowing the lawn?  Asking for more help, and putting your foot down are two different things. I want to know how it's gotten this far.[/quote]

Some of the things are logistics since he takes public transport and I drive, it makes sense for me to get the kids to/from school. It makes sense for me to order groceries and pick them up since i cook becuase i am home 30 minutes earlier than him (because i go in earlier). It makes sense i do the clothing shopping because the times he had done it he gets the incorrect sizes and we have to return things or he gets things the kids don't like. 
The thing is ALL of these things add up slowly over time until you are burried under a mountain of shit and when you ask for help to get out of it the status quo must remain. I have talked until i am blue in the face and after each talk he will do 1 or 2 extra things. LIke throwing in laundry before he leaves for work but that lasts exactly ONE time and then we have to discuss again. It is exhausting. 
I don't expect Choreplay, but if he expects routine and willing sex, he needs to put in routine effort into our partnership and not just enjoy the benefits of it and expect all of the rewards because he has a penis that needs to get attention.

The more men understand that their own actions likely contribute to the way their wives feel about them and the lust they feel toward them, the sooner marriages and sex lives can be turned around. [/quote]

Pro tip guys acting incompetent so they can get out of chores they don't like[/quote]

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