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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a still waiting to hear why it is belittling to not change your name (if you are a woman) . The only explanation I’ve heard is because everyone else does it. [/quote]

You are right -- that is a big reason. If the long standing cultural norm were that both husband and wife kept their names, I would not be on here talking about how it upsets men when their wives keep their name.

The fact that pretty much everyone else does it and you do not means 90+% of men (nation wide, not in your DC area social circles) have been given the honor, recognition, respect, gesture of love, etc that your husband did not get. In cases where you get the traditional benefits of marriage like an expensive engagement ring, contributing less than 50% of the family income, and so on, it's even more hypocritical.

You won, your husband lost, and now your husband will be reminded of this fact every day for the rest of his life. That's what it means to keep your name.[/quote]

I just read this post to my husband of 30 years since i am one of those women who kept her maiden name.

His response? He laughed and said "what a cretin."

Not every guy is as lame and insecure as you, pal.[/quote]

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