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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Think more broadly about the example you're setting for your child here. You're showing him that marriage isn't about working together, trying to be good to each other, etc., it's about staking out what you want to be responsible for and then refusing to go outside of it for the benefit of your marriage or your household. That's not really a recipe for a healthy relationship.[/quote]

I get what you are saying, but in fact I am not comfortable with a model for my son where he seems mom doing all of the cooking and cleaning from morning until night, and runs the household, and her job is 24/7 while dad is off the clock once he gets in the door. I do all the cleaning-I have a really nicely kept house. Our sink doesn't have dirty dishes in it, our counters aren't sticky, our floors are swept, we always have clean clothes, our bathroom towels are always fresh, our cars are tidy, DS's toys are nicely kept and rotated, our bills are paid and paperwork is in order, our taxes are filed, etc. Before we had a kid, DH would go out for a breakfast burrito on Saturday, while I spent an hour on cleaning.  I'm not resentful, I love having a nice guest-ready house, and so does DH. We often have guests over. But aside from cooking, I pretty much do everything, and I actually think DS should see dad doing some household stuff as well.  DH isn't a natural cleaner-upper, so I don't think he's going to all of a sudden pitch in more on that front. [/quote]

I have not (and will not) read every post in this thread, but this post encapsulates how selfish OP is.  She does the things that are important to her, that's it.  OP, if you feel like your husband isn't pulling his weight, pass off some tasks to him - finances, tax prep, rotating your kid's toys (WTF is that, anyway?), cleaning bathrooms on the weekends.  But you have chosen to refuse to do the one thing that has direct, day-to-day impact on your husband because you don't like to do it, and you're using the fig leaf of "unequal division of labor" to justify it.  That's transparent, selfish crap.  [/quote]

Seriously. Op, if you refuse to cook, hire a nanny and maid and get a paid full time job to pay for said nanny, maid, and daily carryout because you refuse to cook. Then you can afford your lifestyle of presumably expecting to eat out everyday (or you not eat anything).[/quote]

Oh, your maid cooks for you?  How darling.  Mine won't even do windows.  Your nanny cooks for you and your husband, too?

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Oh sweetie, I hope you are OP. Let me tell you something. Most nannies are willing to cook more than cutting a piece of cheese or handing someone a raw potato.  :roll: [/quote]

No sugar plum, I'm not Op.  From what I understand, most nannies will cook for their charge but prefer not to cook for the grown ups, although some might be persuaded to do so for an additional charge.[/quote]

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