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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
My mother suddenly passed away when my oldest was 5yrs old. She is now 13yrs old and still talks about memories and stories. They were very close. This year for Christmas I made her a Shutterfly book of all their pictures and mementos and she cried like a baby for 30 minutes. So there are kids that actually DO CARE. My guess is that they are from families that care

I'm not the PP, but I don't really think that a situation with a grandparent who a child was close to is comparable to a great grandparent that they barely knew due to dementia. I'd definitely require my child to attend the funeral of the former regardless of any other commitment, but probably not the latter, even if he didn't have another commitment.

I'm the pp with the great grandparent. It saddens me to think an old man who has been so important to your life might not worth your son's time as if the fact that he had dementia now makes him less of the great person he was. Maybe I didn't explain it well though. Although my grandfather didn't remember a lot about what was happening in the present in his late 90's, his memory of the past was unfading and he was a great storyteller. We visited him several times a year as an entire family so this child had plenty of visits over the 10 years to feel close enough. Every time we went up, the family was able to pay for the trips from his bank account. The great grandparent knew enough to remember all the names of the great grandchildren including what they liked to do. And before he died, he had a video made for a family member's wedding just to tell her how happy he was for her and how he thought her husband was perfect for her. The other blow to the grandson staying home was that the in law who had known the grandparent for many years also didn't come.

I do understand why a high school child might have to miss an important event, but I just can't believe that all sporting events of a child's life are so important that a child can't take time out of their lives to be with family. If it were a family wedding instead of an old man's funeral would you also agree that a 10 year old shouldn't miss a sports tournament?[/quote]
Blah, blah, blah. She is just pissed everyone is not making a big deal out of her wedding. This is about an adult acting like a child. If family is soooo important why cause all the hate? Oh because it's her day! Really? Yes everyone else is just a prop(including the groom) to an event that 98% of the people who attend will not be able to remember in 3 years. [/quote]

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