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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love how some clown keeps harping that the issue is lack of sex yet never admits that’s driven by broken trust, reliability and respect.

It’s like saying you are shocked you have a cavity yet constantly eat krap and don’t brush your teeth. Is the real issue the cavity or your bad habits?

Delulu. [/quote]

And never addresses the role that communication plays in all of it.  If a spouse is unhappy, they need to say so.  Don’t assume the other person is a mind reader, however obvious it might be.  Have a serious sit-down discussion before the resentment builds to the point of no return.  Before one party has already fully checked out.  It doesn’t mean divorce isn’t 100% going to be prevent, but it will prevent the other feeling blindsided if it actually comes to that.

Oh, can’t/don’t wanna have a discussion with your spouse?  See above post.

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There are literally constantly posts here in various threads by women in their 40s and 50s who have lost interest in sex entirely, yet don't see it as a problem at all-- in fact it's their absolute right not only to not have marital sex but to be outraged that their husbands feel differently about it.  Op sounds like one of them.[/quote]

Cool story.  If he doesn’t say “this is a problem for me,” out loud, he’s an AH.  [/quote]

Are you serious?  Or just clueless? He has no right to have an expectation of having sex with his wife. If he dates to bring it up, he's a misogynistic patriarchal abuser, trying to violate her rights and coerce her.[/quote]

Yes, you’re right.  There’s no middle ground between some poor, poor man suffering in silence – practically forced to screw his colleague – and threats of marital rape.

She has every right not to want sex.  He has every right to want it.  But if there are no discussions about the state of a marriage, what’s the point in being married?  Oh, right.  He just leaves and everyone blames the woman.[/quote]

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