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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have childfree, sahm and wohm friends. If we say, "I did x because I didn't want Y," we assume it is a personal, individual decision and not meant to cast judgement on anyone who did Y who can hear the statement. It's not always about you, people. [/quote]

I grow my hair long because I don’t want to look like a bull dike.

Does that working in your scenario.[/quote]

DP but actually yes.  This is actually a perfect example.  Imagine we’re friends and we’re talking and you have a pixie haircut and my hair is long.  And you ask me why I don’t chop it off like yours.  See, I might think your haircut looks great on YOU, and maybe you look fabulous like Halle Berry, or Anne Hathaway.  But I don’t think *I* can pull off short hair - unless my hair is long I “look like a bull dike”.[/quote]

Yeah, this is a perfect example because it WOULD be super rude of you to respond "because I don't want to look like a bull dyke" EVEN IF your internal thought process includes thinking the person you're speaking to looks good with a pixie.

But I also see another layer of insult, in that the idea it's supposed to be bad to look masculine
...but I like having a pixie because of that, so even if you are saying that to someone who wants to look queer, you're putting that down. Either way you should probably just think about how your words sound and who you're talking to! [/quote]

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