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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t get why it’s so bad to help with the laundry. It’s not like you don’t know that he’s going to leave the clean laundry in a pile. You “watched” the laundry pile up all day without offering to help?  WTF?  It appears to be some sort of bean counting, and that’s never good for a marriage. Ask yourself “how important is it to ask your spouse to do a task they hate and cause tension in your marriage over it?”  It’s laundry. This isn’t important. Just work as a team. Or you could nag and be miserable, but that doesn’t seem to be working for you.  [/quote]

Serious question (and I’m not OP)
What do I do when we’ve already had this conversation?  Multiple times?  And he’s good about it for about a month, then slips back to previous behavior? And we’ve been married for close to 20 years?  Am I the one who’s just supposed to suck it up ONE HUNDRED PERCENT of the time?  How does resentment not build?[/quote]

Just.do.your.OWN.effing.laundry.

Duh.[/quote]

I do. But he puts loads in of his stuff and the kids. And just leaves it there. All over the place. On top of the dryer. In random piles. Sitting in the basket for days. Then I have to dump the basket when I need to use it. (We have multiple baskets. He’ll fill them all. So please don’t tell me to buy another basket)[/quote]

Maybe you should take over the laundry? I'm not being snarky, but since he doesn't do it the way you like, perhaps it's something you should do. And if he decides to do a load of his own stuff once, just take it out and dump it somewhere and he can deal with it.

There are some things I like done a particular way so I just do them. There are plenty of other things my husband does, but I don't feel like wasting time being annoyed with him on the things I care about (laundry is one of them).

Another option is to use a laundry service. [/quote]

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