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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone contributes to society, what's the difference between raising your children, caring for your parents and managing your household vs doing it for money as an employee?[/quote]

For me it’s because once kids were in school there was not much “raising kids/caring for parents/managing household “ to do. [/quote]

I’m always surprised when people say this.  I don’t think that my day to day changed that much when my youngest went to school.  I just didn’t have my little buddy with me anymore.

I guess I don’t go to the zoo as much, but it’s not like I was spending hours a day playing CandyLand with a four year old before he went to school.  [/quote]
You don't think your day to day changed when you arent responsible for a human for most of the day? That's a huge difference to me![/quote]

I’m still ultimately responsible for all of my kids every day.  
But yeah, it isn’t that different.  
Now I go go book club on Thursday mornings on my own.  I don’t have to bring stickers.  
When I fold laundry, I listen to an audiobook instead of his little stories, and I have to match the socks myself.  
I usually make dinner on my own without my little helper.  (There’s too much going on after school to cook then.).

I mostly kind of miss him.  [/quote]

Sounds like you don’t do much of anything. [/quote]

She cooks and cleans and takes care of her children after school. That’s plenty. [/quote]

DP here. I have 3 kids in 3 different schools. I basically have 5 hours from last kid drop off to first kid ending school. I work out, shower, run errands, cook, clean up, etc. There isn’t that much time left. I do meet up with a friend for lunch or go to the spa but it is like once per week.[/quote]

Your time management skills are severely lacking. I guess it's good you don't have to work because it doesn't sound like you'd make it through a day. [/quote]
So much hate! How do you know that her time management skills are lacking?

You’d put all three kids in the same school, right? Because you’re so brilliant, yeah? That actually sounds lazy to me. Maybe she’s chosen to make her life a little more difficult to put each kid at the best place for that child. She’s doing it because she can and she wants the best fit for all three.

For a third party like me, it’s obvious that you are seething with jealousy that you do not have the resources to send your kids to three different schools. [/quote]

Ha, ok. My kids are at the private they all want to be at and we're very happy there. So yeah, I have the resources to send them wherever I want. So "obviously" you are wrong.

Someone who has five hours a day and who has no time left after working out, showering, running errands, cooking, and cleaning isn't good at managing their time. You realize that many people do all those things in far less than five hours, right? Again, good thing she doesn't have too much on her plate. [/quote]

I’m guessing that the PP’s schedule looks something like this:

Workout = 1 hour

Half and hour doesn’t cut it for a decent workout.

Shower + make up/dressing = 1/2 hour

If you spend less time, you look disheveled, no matter what. You especially need to blowdry your hair.

Errands = 1 hour

With traffic it’s going to take you an hour to go to the grocery store, the post office, or to drop off unsuccessful on-line purchases at Fed Ex/UPS. Maybe you can do it faster, but that’s how the traffic is where I am.

Cleaning = 2 hours

If you have a 4,000 to 6,000 square foot house with five bathrooms, it’s going to take about two hours a day of maintenance to keep it decent.

Cooking = 1 hour

If you’re preparing healthy meals with lots of vegetables, it takes a lot of time to clean them and chop them up, properly.

I’ve already gone over the five hours here. But I’ll assume some days PP, won’t have errands and that you’ll tell me how good you can make yourself look in under ten minutes. Or how you can chop vegetables in five. I get it. But it looks to me like PP really doesn’t have that much extra time if she’s doing all the things she has to do.

What’s your abbreviated timeline for completing these tasks?[/quote]

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