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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would they still fight for workforce accessibility/equality or accept that stay at home mom is better than working a full time job and not seeing their kids grow up? Did it provide the happiness it promised?

Saw this question being asked and I know what I would choose[/quote]

You realize that when a woman stays home her partner has to work longer hours to support her lifestyle, right? By your own logic, partners to a SAHM don't see their children grow up either and yet I never see anyone asking similar questions to men as if their time with children doesn't seem to be equally important.

I also think you've got a rosy view of the past. Even though most women stayed home they didn't live like wealthy housewives do today because most of them were married or average earning men who had to work very long hours while the wife did manual unpaid labor at home and did not have much quality time for her children. I'd be a working woman today a d share childcare with my husband.[/quote]

I think you misunderstand. My husband would have the demanding job/long hours either way. He wouldn’t become a GS15 if I was working. So given those facts, it makes sense for one of us not to work. [/quote]

I just choked on my coffee. Your husband is a GS15 and you're saying he has a demanding job and long hours? HAHAHAHAHAH. I was a GS15 for many years. He's playing you. Also, he doesn't make much.[/quote]

I’ve never been a federal employee, but I’ve been a state employee and I know your type. I had coworkers who showed up at 9 and were packed up and out the door at 5, never mind if the work was done or not. The overflow from their choice to ‘work’ 9-5 fell on those of us who understood our salary and generous benefits package came with an expectation that we would work beyond 40 hours when it was necessary and to get things done well, it was often necessary.

We all know your type. You sure aren’t chomping at the bit to leave so you can go home and pitch in to help your wife with housework and childcare. [/quote]

DP.  
I’m with you, pp.  I always think about this when people say they go to every sports practice, volunteer at the school, are able to rush out and get kids at school at any time, and are there to get the kids at the bus every day.

It sounds to me like they are putting a lot on their co-workers.

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I do all those things. I also used to be a GS15. I've always worked hard, but I'm smart about it. I get up early in the morning, I focus when I'm at work, and I prioritize how I spend my time. I'd be happy to let you interview my former and current co-workers. Guaranteed they'd mention that I'm actually the one who helps them out when they need. As they say, when you need something done, ask the busy person. [/quote]

100% this.  I'm 30 years into my job and my boss is amazed at how much (and how well!) I get things done in 1/4 of the time it takes other employees. I've always been that way.  I got my best friend a job out of grad school and her BF wanted to know why she had to do so much involuntary overtime just to keep her head a float and I was always out the door.  My production and quality was always the highest. I read quick, analyze quick, cut out the BS and can say in 2 pages what it takes another employee to get to in 20 (my boss said that:).

My sons are the same in HS.  They have straight As at a tough private school, 5s on their APs, etc. and they play competitive sports, socialize and get their work/study done quickly.  They don't stress and struggle. I'm on my younger one's case some times because I think he isn't studying or he's procrastinating--but that kid pulls it out fast. His memorization skills are amazing and like me--he wants to get to the fun stuff so he isn't up in his room pissing away all his time looking at SM when he should be getting HW done to get onto practice.

I am also the employee people come to when they need help and the one my boss says ...go ask X to help you organize/prioritize.[/quote]

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