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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I reach the same conclusion every time I read one of these threads, which is that you all need better friends.  It's not where you live - its who you choose to spend your time with.[/quote]

+1 I haven't experienced this. I have one in college and a HS senior. I think it's friends AND mindset. [/quote]

I really don’t get this.  Have you all never lived outside the DC area?  It’s a big country and it’s absolutely variable in terms of the pace of life.  Maybe if you haven’t lived in other places, you don’t realize how different the northeast is generally.  Places have different vibes, whether it’s east coast/west coast, southeast vs Midwest vs northeast, urban vs rural.  And yes, some places are more competitive, driven and job/work oriented than others.  None of this is a knock on DC or other fast paced areas!  It doesn’t mean people in more fast paced areas aren’t nice.  It’s just not for everyone.[/quote]

I’m from NYC. Compared to my friends in NYC, our kids in a highly ranked DMV school pyramid seem to have it pretty easy. We don’t have to test into GT in kindergarten or apply to middle and high schools.

DH and I are both Ivy grad school educated. The friends we have in NYC are well educated and all want their kids to go to the Ivy schools they attended.

Our friends here in our UMC highly ranked public schools seem less concerned about their kids getting into ivy schools. People here seem satisfied with UVA, UMD, Penn State, etc. [/quote]

Yup, the NYC area is in a league of its own for competitiveness IMO - I’ve lived in both areas![/quote]

I grew up in NYC. I agree it is competitive but I don’t mind it. The world is full of mediocrity. If fierce competition is needed to carve out excellence, so be it. We all like exceptional doctors, chefs, musicians, and lawyers, don’t we? When is the last time you thought to yourself, well I’d better go to this mediocre surgeon because he seems happy and balanced?[/quote]

I think NYC is perfect for some people and that likely is you/your personality, and there is nothing wrong with that.  There’s a beauty to the pace and vibe of NYC.  But I don’t buy that “fierce competition is needed to carve out excellence” - to me that’s a false premise, and why I left.[/quote]

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